3 Simple Steps to Conquer Your Limiting Beliefs
By Ramona Remesat
Dream bigger darling! How do these words make you feel? Do you feel excited, empowered, and inspired? Or do you secretly shrink inside?
I saw that statement inscribed on journals and notepads at Chapters and it made me think of how we keep ourselves small because of our mind stories.
If you’re familiar with the Law of Attraction then you know that our thoughts are hugely powerful and can in fact, draw people, ideas, opportunities and circumstances to us. But it’s likely that you haven’t heard about another Universal Law, the Law of Belief. This law states that whatever you believe, with conviction, becomes your reality. You always act in a way consistent with your deepest and most intensely held beliefs, whether they are true or not. And all your beliefs are learned. At one time you didn’t have them.
Isn’t that wild?! Now consider this…
There was a woman, 30 years old or so, married with two kids. Growing up, she was constantly criticized and treated unfairly by her parents. As a result, she had low self-esteem, developed an inferiority complex and lacked confidence.
One day, she was in a terrible car accident. Upon awakening in the hospital, she had complete memory loss. She had no recollection at all of any part of her past life. Her family visited her every day, but she did not know them! The doctors expected her to re-gain her memory but she never did. Because her case was so unusual, doctors and specialists came from all over to test her.
Eventually she went home, but her memory remained a complete blank. Determined to understand what happened to her, she began reading and studying about amnesia and memory loss. She interviewed specialists in this field and eventually wrote a paper on her condition. She was even invited to present her paper at a medical conference.
During this time, something amazing happened. She became a completely new person! All the attention in the hospital and afterward made her feel valuable, important and truly loved. The attention she received from the medical community built her self-esteem and self-respect. She became a genuinely positive, outgoing and confident woman, and a highly sought-after speaker.
All memory of her negative childhood had been wiped out and the feelings of inferiority disappeared as well. She became a new person by changing her thinking!
This story illustrates how harmful our self-limiting beliefs can be. They hold you back and, the kicker is, most of them are not even true!
So how can you conquer them without having to get hit by a car?
Try the following three simple steps to conquer your limiting beliefs.
1) Mind Your Mind – Our thoughts are tricky. Most of the time we run on auto-pilot without giving much consideration to what our minds are telling us. If we lack confidence, it’s easy to buy-in when our limiting beliefs tell us something like, “you’re not qualified for that, nobody is going to want to hire you.” So the first step in conquering our mind stories is to become aware of them.
Try This: Place an elastic band around your wrist. Each time you catch your inner critic piping up and telling you all the reasons you can’t or shouldn’t do something, snap it against your wrist! This will show you VERY quickly, how many limiting thoughts we can have in just the span of one day! Try wearing the elastic for 24-48 hours and if you are really daring you can wear it for a whole month as a way to get into the habit of minding your mind.
2) Get Mouthy – Now that you are more aware of what your mind is telling you, it’s time to talk back. Whenever you recognize a limiting thought, play Devil’s advocate and ask, “Who says?” or “Is that really true?” You will quickly find that there is often no proof of that belief actually belonging to YOU. Instead, it most likely came from a parent, or other adult in your life, and because it was told to you when your brain wasn’t developed enough to process it, you just stored it away as “truth” because mom or dad said so.
Try This: Take out a sheet of paper and think about some of your most common limiting beliefs. Chances are, you already know what some of them are. They can be anything from “I’m not good in math” or “I don’t deserve success or happiness” to “I can’t save money.” Then challenge these beliefs and watch them quickly vaporize.
3) Let Go & Reframe – Now that you have uncovered some of those pesky beliefs that have been keeping you playing small, it’s time to kick them to the curb for good! Resolve to let them go and replace them with more empowering and positive beliefs. You can do this by turning them into a positive affirmation and by visualizing yourself as the positive, successful, healthy, loved and respected person that you truly are.
Try This: Take out another sheet of paper and write out 3-5 positive affirmations to replace your negative soundtrack. For example, if you catch yourself saying “Nothing ever goes right for me” change that to, “Everything works out for me!” or if you tell yourself, “I feel like a failure” replace that thinking with “My life is a success.” Once you have your list of 3-5 affirmations read them out loud every day while looking at yourself in the mirror. They are your “to-be list” and working with them can be extremely powerful! You may be surprised that you find it difficult to say positive things about yourself and you may even get emotional doing this exercise, but stick with it. The results will be well worth it!
So be willing to release all that no longer serves you and Dream Bigger Darling. It’s your time to shine!
Ramona Remesat is a Speaker and Intuitive Mindset Coach. She helps women coaches and service-based entrepreneurs, who are tired of getting in their own way, conquer their self-sabotaging behaviours and activate their inner GPS so they can make money doing what they love! Get started today with The Three Essential Steps to Getting Anything You Want in Life at www.ramonaremesat.com